We Need To Talk…

‘We need to talk’…four little words that have spelled the end of many a relationship. When Sheila from Leinster (not her real name) uttered those fateful words to her husband of 25 years, however, he was completely clueless as to the bombshell she was about to drop next. The relationship was over alright; but she…

We Exist: Lesbians With Disability

If you think that you have a tough time meeting women, just imagine what your life would be like if you had the added challenge of a disability. Some of us already have that extra obstacle to overcome. Contemplate this for a moment, how many lesbians with a disability do you actually know? Whether the…

Megan Fox Speaks Out Against Domestic Violence

On March 8th we celebrated International Women’s Day (IWD), but every day, violence against women and girls persists around the world. Domestic violence is not just confined to the heterosexual community, but often occurs in the lesbian community as well. We are bombarded with the archetypal image of a battered heterosexual woman being abused by…

Torn Between Duty And Desire

Torn Between Duty and Desire….being a gay lover and a father All parents face challenges when raising their children, but some gay parents have an additional complication to contend with. Imagine being a great, loving father who cherishes his children and loves his wife as a best friend. Your lover is a man who you…

Labels Are For Luggage

Are you gay or are you straight? Are you bisexual or are you a lesbian? Are you femme or are you butch? Are you fat or are you thin? Why is it that we are so preoccupied with labels or ticking the right boxes, that we forget about the individual behind the tag? Just who…

Cape Town:Two Sides Of The Same Coin

For countless foreign visitors, Cape Town is an indelible symbol of the beauty and promise of post-apartheid South Africa. Beyond its gorgeous scenery and great wines, its logo — an outline of majestic Table Mountain superimposed over a rainbow — emphasises its historic mix of races and cultures, and its most famous resident, Desmond Tutu,…

Turkish, Muslim…and a Lesbian

Firstly, you have to be invited. Then you have to promise utter discretion. On the assigned evening, you enter, and if your name is on the list you’re in. You’ve suddenly arrived in another world. There are scores of women dancing, talking, eating, drinking. They come from different backgrounds—Muslim, Christian, Greek Orthodox and Jews—but they’re…

Hell Hath No Fury

Does anyone out there have an ex-girlfriend? You’ve broken up. It’s over. Done. You’re trying to move on. Then….bam!! The vindictive ex. People deal with the end of a relationship in various ways. Some go down the healthy route ( lots of therapy, good food, great company, exercise) while some people just go down (lots…

Breaking The Silence

Breaking The Silence Many lesbians in South Africa are living in fear as rape and murder become a daily threat to their lives. A silent epidemic known as ‘corrective rape’ is sweeping the country, where the victims are being brushed aside as society frowns upon them and their lifestyle. Men rape lesbians in what they…